"Sculptors of Illusions"

"Sculptors of Illusions"

If you take time to read this and

understand it, I feel it will make you

very adept at lessening stress and feeling

at home in this world.

Most of our problems come from thinking

others feel like we do. They probably don't.

Each of us creates an illusion of life. We have

rules and expectations based on what we think is

right or comfortable for us. We love those who we

think believe as we do and we reject those who don't.

We assume those we let into our lives really experience

life as we do. They do not. They have their illusions

of life and are probably so far from ours that we would

be shocked if we could experience it. This is why people

divorce. At some point they discover that truth.

We work to create the "life" that we want and are comfortable

with. Our biggest mistake is to think others feel like we do.

We project our thoughts and feelings towards them and if they

don't argue, we assume.

Only God knows what they are thinking.

People will stay in your life for various reasons. It is comfortable,

they receive things they want from you, you are amusing or sexy

or fun to be with, lots of reasons. This is no reason for you to ever

believe that they experience your life as you do.

I remember a time when I was pouring out my feelings to my

husband. When I was finished he said, "Tomorrow I am going

to fix that trellis by the garage".

He was nowhere in my experience

of those painful moments.

He was living in his own illusion.

So you see, there is an illusion for every living being.

This is why there is so much

stress, pain, illness, wars, killings,

you name it.

It is because we think

people are like we are.

They are not.

It is like living in a world of aliens.

The more we fool ourselves,

the more stress we bring into our lives.

When people don't show appreciation,

it is because what you do

really has no meaning to them.

Perhaps they didn't even want you to say

or do or give them the "sacrifice"

that you made.

Perhaps they really don't even like you,

but just tolerate you

because they are related,

work with you,

or

just can't figure out how to dump you.

In order to cope with this thinking,

you must give up your ego totally.

At first it will be hard,

but it will bring you much peace

in the long run.

I have a strong belief in God

and the Christian doctrine

and in my "illusion"

I used to become very angry

when someone would deny God.

Like I could do anything about that

except become stressed?

People who want a nice illusion

that makes them comfy probably don't want

any reminders of right and wrong.

Maybe it is too hard for them

to live under that strain.

I don't know and no longer stress myself

with the problem.

It is their God given right

to choose anything

they want for their life.

That is another thing

that is hard for parents

to understand.

We tend to think

we "own" our children.

What a stupid idea that is.

The more we want them to be like us,

the more they fight for their own rights.

Simple when you know the truth.

When we really fall in love

with someone,

and it isn't returned,

we get all sorts of emotions going on.

Now isn't that stupid?

If they don't feel the same,

all the wishing,

manipulation, etc;

isn't going to change it.

If they do come into your life

just because it is easy

or they have ulterior motives,

you will be very sorry in a short time.

Knowing this theory

helps you understand

why some people chose a life of crime,

some kill the victim who

won't live in their illusion.

Some steal to create a materialistic illusion

that they think they should have.

Every thing we do,

every thought we have

just belongs to us.

You can be judged good or bad

by others no matter what you do,

or choose to drive,

sit on, food you eat,

I could go on forever with examples.

You can imagine what others

are thinking but you will never know

or experience just what it is like

where they live,

even in the same house.

Even in the same room.

I don't know why knowing this

is so freeing but it is.

When something goes wrong,

you find yourself thinking,

well I am glad I am not in his "world".

Never force yourself into

someone else's world either.

You will be very unhappy.

The forces will collide.

Just make yours as comfy as possible

and allow others to do the same.

You will no longer be plagued

by second guessing,

expectations that never come to fruition,

disappointments,

and other painful stress agents.

When a catastrophe occurs,

you will have the energy to cope

and re-invent your illusion

to suit your comfort and your state of mind.

You will no longer worry

about events that you can do nothing about.

You WILL

find peace at last!

Kesti©November 2, 2009